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Rolf Dobelli shares "guaranteed ways to fail" in The Not to Do List.
First, the table of contents
What's the point of the Table of Contents here? TLDR (too long didn't read). Let's select FIVE to focus our attention. You would choose a different five.
1. "Invite Bad People Into Your Life
Most people are good...think 95-5 as a baseline. The problem is that you'll devote an oversized portion of time coping with or dealing with the problems. If you were the fire chief and had fifty firefighters, maybe 47 are great - punctual, competent, dedicated. But you'll spend enormous time with the three slackers - late, full of excuses, missing work, behavioral problems. This impacts your TEAM and the public safety.
The same can happen on other 'teams'. You have a college roommate who's a "cutter" that you're worried about. You're in a relationship with someone who isn't a good person.
You're not going to find big personality conflicts with MVB. Coach Celli makes it clear that if you're not going to be happy with your role, this might not be the right situation for you.
2. "Celebrate Your Resentment"
Remember Coach Wooden's triad, "Don't whine, don't complain, and don't make excuses." Every MVB club, State Champion, four Finalists, ten Sectional winners, had at least one loss.
You've all seen Frozen and heard "Let It Go." Learn from losses and then stuff them in the closet. Holding on to resentment isn't a productive way to live.
Unhappy with your role. Keep a positive attitude, work hard, and be ready for when your chance comes. It always does.
Patriots' Coach Bill Parcells said, "Coaches are the most selfish people. We put the players on the field that we think will make us look good.
3. "Expect Rationality"
Everyone knows that toxic people, tobacco, alcohol excess, and drugs are bad for you. The "rational person" would therefore not dive into the deep end, unable to swim. You're parents probably have said, "If your friend jumped off a bridge, would you?"
Lead. Model excellence. Make good choices. Don't go rogue like Pinocchio to Pleasure Island and end up a donkey.
4. "Drift Through the Day"
Writers need outlines. Chefs follow recipes - even at elite restaurants. Builders use blueprints. Why would we be any different?
"Plan your trade; trade your plan." The four legs of the volleyball stool - skill, strategy, physicality, psychology. You're sick of hearing it. That doesn't nullify it.
Be intentional. Have a plan. Practice your footwork, your platform skills, your armswing, your float or topspin serve to specific areas.
Respect the Yogi Berra quote, "You've got to be very careful if you don't know where you're going, because you might not get there." Have a vision of what success looks like and the path to get there.
5. "Make Other People Feel Unimportant"
Life exposes three types of people - takers, matchers, and givers. Some people only take credit. Some will go "one for one," in exchanges (send me a patient, I'll send you one), and givers.
You want to be seen, heard, and respected. Amen to that. If you're the hardest worker at practice daily, you'll get "shout outs," chances, and get credit as a great teammate. You could still be number 13 on the depth chart, but own self-satisfaction for always doing your best.
Here's a secret. Coaches have pets - the players who are always early, positive, want to improve, want to win, and have a great attitude. What's not to like about that player?
The path to failure is easy to find. Seek it and go the other way.
Lagniappe. "Got extra reps in before practice? – Celebrate it! Kept a cool head when under pressure? – Celebrate it! Achieved a personal best at practice? – Celebrate it! Received a good score on your exam? – Celebrate it! Achieved all your mini goals for today? – Celebrate it!" - Allistair McCaw in Habits That Make a Champion
Lagniappe 2. Ralph Labella called this, "Nicey-nicey." Don't. I know that all of you are high character players. Be a tough player, too.
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