Saturday, September 05, 2026

"You Know What I Like About You Guys?"

Coach Ellis Lane used to ask us from time to time, "You know what I like about you guys?" To which we would answer as one, "Nothing."

Coach was demanding but not demeaning. His words stuck with us:

"Sacrifice."

"I'm pleased but I'm not satisfied."

"On the line." (Time to run.) 

Competitors want to be coached. They want to improve, to excel, to become their best. That comes with no guarantees. Choose to always do your best because anything less is not enough. 


Lagniappe 2. "Who are those guys?" Another Coach Ellis Lane saying...going into the season, our team was unranked. Going into the postseason, it was still unranked. "Prove them wrong."  

 



 

 

"Surround Yourself with Great People" - Coach Mike Krzyzewski

Having supportive family and exceptional coaching creates 'sustainable competitive advantage'.

Having friends and teammates with character and competence adds additional leverage. 

"Mentoring is the only shortcut to excellence" and Mr. Rogers' "Look for the helpers." 

You may know some of these sayings:

"You lie down with dogs and you get fleas."

"Birds of a feather flock together." 

"It's hard to soar like an eagle if you hang with turkeys." 

Find people who are invested in your success.  

Maintain Your Volleyball Profile

Some athletes want to continue playing in college. This coach suggests keeping your athletic profile up to date.

Assess your "fit" for a specific program, realizing that your education comes first and if you put athletics first (before fit), it often ends badly for many different reasons.

Keep high academic standards to give yourself the best chance to succeed long term. MVB has always had many elite student-athletes because "how you do anything is how you do everything."  

Mental Toughness Is a Superpower

CARE.

C - concentrate (focus)

A - anticipate (read the play)

R - react (get there)

E - execute (make the play)

Theory is about studying and practice. In "Golf Is Not a Game of Perfect," Bob Rotella says that games are not the time to be thinking about your fundamentals. Have your shot planned. Take the club out of the bag. Address the ball and take your best shot. 


The Storm

Struggling in a volleyball scrimmage is not the storm. It's tough elements to prepare you for the storm. 

Most of you have not seen the storm yet. For your sake, let's hope not. Becoming your best self means responding well to trials - physical, emotional, psychological.

Develop the tools to respond better and get help from your family and support system when you need it. 

"They're Not Cattle"


Legendary basketball coach Pete Newell said that the coach's primary job was to help players "see the game." He added, "they're not cattle." 

The author emphasizes the importance of "context." When Coach Scott Celli prioritizes serve-receive and closing the blocks, there's underlying simplicity. That's how good teams score most of their points against you. 

Lagniappe. The nonleague game schedule is on the horizon. Coach Celli works to add value. "Iron sharpens iron." An important way to improve as an individual and as a team is to play better competition. 

The University of Minnesota (at the time a top ten team) traveled to Japan to play Japanese collegians. Minnesota got crushed. The Japanese coach suggested they play some good high school teams. At first the Minnesota coach felt insulted, but he decided to do it anyway. Minnesota went 9-4 against the high school teams... 

Lagniappe 2. Beginner's Mind is a Japanese concept implying openness.

OKC is not resting on last year's results. 

Last year's results are history. The Patriots' Super Bowl loss is history. Exceptional programs constantly seek to unearth truths about their sport and themselves. 


 

Friday, September 04, 2026

Repost - Media Training (Print and Save)

People judge us by how we present ourselves. That includes verbal, nonverbal, and written communication.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. 

How do you improve? Use the adage about "how do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice. Practice. Practice.

Practice in front of a mirror. Practice with a friend or a parent. Practice when you're tired. Have people ask you spontaneous (unprepared) questions.

  • Thank the interviewer. 
  • "Don't be boring."
  • Practice helps avoid words such as "like, you know, um, and er."
  • Be a credit giver not a credit taker.
  • After a win, recognize good fortune against a quality opponent. 
  • Credit your family for their help and sacrifice. 
  • Credit your coaches and their preparation.
  • Credit your teammates. "Deflection is perfection."
  • "Repetitions make reputations."
Lagniappe. Attitude. 

  

The Hidden Secret to Success

Everyone fails. Reset and overcome.

A pitcher allows a home run. That play is over.

A quarterback throws an interception or fumbles. The next drive awaits.

Don't allow a hitting error or a shanked ball to cause a spiral of errors.


Control what we can control. Control our response to adversity. Mental toughness means the ability to respond well to adversity. Feeling sorry for ourselves accomplishes nothing. 

In 2021 Melrose trailed 3-10 in the fifth set of the sectional finals. They fought off three match points amidst a 13-4 closing run. 

Melrose fell to 3-10 before it’s epic rally to victory. Here’s video from Ralph Labella of the comeback fists of fury starting with Melrose trailing 11-14. 


Success starts with the ability to reset and to play harder for longer, regardless of the situation. 

Losses Are Lessons

Good teams learn from every experience. Some of the greatest victories are born from lesser performances.  

As a Player, Decide What You Want and How You're Getting It*

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. The blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose organization. 

*Adapted from my basketball blog. 

Years ago at Fenway (from a front row, third base-side seat!) I heard first base coach Dave Parker walk by and yell at Jim Leyritz (coming up to bat), "Do something." Having a 6'5" behemoth yell encouragement didn't help.

An important question for players and coaches to address is:

What does this behavior hope to accomplish?

Rude, insulting, or passive-aggressive behavior seldom accomplishes the desired intent. "I knew that you'd eventually take a good shot," won't endear you to a player.  

Better communication connects better: separate the person from the problem. Instead of labeling the athlete as lazy, selfish, or negative, ask "what's your why? What are you looking for from this?" That creates more room for change as coaches seek to change behaviors.

Coaches want to raise player and team performance. Understanding their motivation might open a pathway.  

Does a player understand we're on her side?

Does a player understand their position on the performance to potential continuum?

Does a player know her strengths, weaknesses, and chance to add value?  

By the time the player's "at bat" it's too late. Exceptional players want coaching and have already come for it. They know the difference. 

Lagniappe. Approval requires somebody else to complete the transaction. Contribution doesn't. Control whether you add value in domain expertise; we don't control who reads or appreciates it. Good work stands on its own.  

Boston Globe Volleyball Preview and Poll

Preseason previews add fuel for discussion. Polls have largely been supplanted by the MIAA 'Power Rankings'.

Here's the Globe rankings featuring Winchester and Reading in their initial Top 20. 

Thursday, September 03, 2026

The Reality for Success

Return to the "four pillars" of development:

Technique (skill)

Tactics (strategy, volleyball IQ)

Physicality (athleticism)

Psychology (mental game, resilience)

Setbacks and disappointments are part of the game. The Japanese proverb "Fall down seven times, get up eightis a cultural maxim emphasizing resilience, perseverance, and the refusal to surrender.

The ability to persist is a superpower. Another cultural message is "chop wood, carry water." Stick to the fundamentals. 

Study leaders, coaches, and exceptional players and you always find both skill and will.

The great John Wooden won his first championship at UCLA in his 16th season. Dean Smith, who coached Michael Jordan at UNC, won his first title in his 21st season. Students burned him in effigy in his first year.


Lagniappe. Coaches have a mental "depth" chart of players and roles. If you're dissatisfied with your status, keep working. Persist. 

Here's an approximation of positional distribution (alphabetical)


Today is a big day with the PlayDay at Winchester. There is no availability for spectators, so it's "Black Box Thinking" for MVB fans. 

 

 

 

 

 

Coaches Help but "The Lord Helps Those Who Help Themselves"

All opinions shared in the blog are solely my own. The blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose organization. 

Life comes without an instruction manual. Over time, you become your own coach - seeking resources that add clarity, specificity, and simplicity.

Develop your own list. 

A coach's prime responsibility is helping players to "see the game." - Pete Newell

Inspire. Nobody can achieve much if they only work when they feel like it. Learn to motivate yourself and draw inspiration from the world. 

"Mentoring is the only shortcut to excellence." Find a mentor. Mr. Rogers said it another way, "Look for the helpers." 

"Via negativa." Learn to subtract as well as add from your core. What techniques, beliefs, and drills no longer apply. "Less is more."  

"Make sure your work is good enough that you would put your name on it." - George Roberts

Exceptional players are ordinary people whose work ethic allows them to do extraordinary things. 

"Video is the Truth Machine." Work to harmonize what you think you see with what actually happens. 

"Mistakes kill dreams." Volleyball is a game of momentum. Learn to get stops by avoiding errors and maintain runs by making plays. 

Self-assess. "How can I get better today?" About 2,500 years ago, Sun Tzu wrote, "Every battle is won before it is fought." 

Develop a core philosophy. Think of a list of attitudes, beliefs, values, and standards. Then use the "25-5 principle" to choose the best. 

Accept the truth, live the truth, tell the truth. Great players thirst for the truth

These are just a few ideas, many stolen from others. Remember what Picasso said, "Good artists borrow; great artists steal." 

Lagniappe. All of you are good volleyball players. What many of you want is to become exceptional. Some of you will gain more athleticism as you grow and mature. In the meantime, cultivate it. Voltaire said, "It is up to us to cultivate our garden." 

Clear Thinking

"Share something great." 

James Clear, bestselling author of Atomic Habits, shares a weekly free newsletter called 3-2-1

It's worth investing our two minutes to read and to reflect upon. 

Remember that "We make our habits and our habits make us." 


Boston Herald Preview

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Under the radar 

Wednesday, September 02, 2026

Lessons from History and Literature*

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. The blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose organization. 

*Adapted from my basketball blog. 

Volleyball is not war, yet presents metaphorical battles and concepts available to us. More than ten years of Navy service taught lessons. History teaches more. 

"I can learn." 

Bowdoin Professor turned Congressional Medal of Honor recipient Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain explained how an untrained Rhetoric professor became a hero at Gettysburg. 

Volleyball - Develop a learning culture. 

"Always forward."  

General Alexander Suvorov was the "General who never lost." He treated his mean well, was committed to training, and never retreated. 

Volleyball - Earn the right to confidence via high performance.

"Every battle is won before it is fought."

Sun Tzu's The Art of War is a timeless classic from over 2500 years ago. He believed that preparation and a host of principles set strategic standards. 

Volleyball - Preparation, practice, and performance follow intent. 

"We will fight in the shade."

According to the historian Herodotus, a native of Trachis warned Dienekes that the Persian arrows were so numerous they would blot out the sun. Dienekes answered, "Good; then we will fight in the shade."

Volleyball - Think "Whatever it takes."

"Duty. Honor. Country."

MacArthur's legendary "Address to Graduates" (West Point) emphasizes the core values of the service academy. 

Volleyball - Distill standards and values. Character. Sportsmanship. Community. 

 "Find one more thing." 

General Hal Moore argued that there was always "one more thing" that could be done to help earn victory. Include that concept into your philosophy and teach it to our players. 

Volleyball - Our basketball training and experience can shape us to become more when we're willing to apply what we know and sometimes to think "outside of the box." 

"You can’t help when or what you were born, you may not be able to help how you die; but you can—and you should—try to pass the days between as a good man.” - Sam Damon in "Once an Eagle"

We can't choose our size, our biological limitations, or our upbringing. We can choose our attitude, our choices, and our effort to grow our character and competence.

Volleyball - Everyone can't become an exceptional player. We can choose to become an exceptional teammate and the best leader we can be.

Lagniappe. Authentic likability is a skill.  

Lagniappe 2. Believe that by modeling excellence that we can help young people develop both character and competence. Most of us do. 

 

Team Sports Aren't About Us

Great culture is about team, playing relentlessly for those around us.  

Do Your Best with Kobe Bryant's Ten Rules

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz has a big following. The fourth, "Always do your best," resonates for many. Coaches help players and teams build character and competence

The second section of Colin Powell's book It Worked for Me, starts with a chapter, "Always Do Your Best, Someone Is Watching." 

One pundit said he noticed a kid shooting repeatedly half an hour before summer camp activities started. The kid turned out to be Steph Curry. As Bill Walsh wrote, "Champions behave like champions before they are."

The best take pride in their preparation, not just performance. When you give your best, it limits regret. Regret stays with us. 

How many times in our lives has opportunity arisen because someone saw us giving our best and intervened to help? It doesn't matter whether their motive was altruism or self-interest. It's satisfying to have the resourcefulness to pull yourself up by the bootstraps. It's another to be gifted boots. 

Reflect on the many tryouts you've attended or supervised. 

  • Finding the "It Girl," the player who has "It."
  • Seeing a spark that intrigues you.
  • Spotting untapped potential in a youngster with athleticism, size, and skill.
Remember the story of Naomi, the little sixth grader who came up to me two minutes before tryouts and said, "Coach, I am really excited to be here." Isn't that the point? 

Summary:

  • "Always do your best. Someone is watching."
  • "Every day is showtime."
  • "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
Lagniappe. Some lists need periodic sharing. Kobe's inhabits that. 

 

Scrimmages Continue

"Trust the process." North Andover traveled to Melrose for the second preseason scrimmage, affording Coach Scott Celli the opportunity to tinker with lineups. Of course, players also get valuable experience.

Knights and Day

The tempo seemed a little muted relative to Monday as North Andover didn't have as much firepower as Lynnfield, although their defense was certainly credible.

Minor Adjustments

Absent as much 'net power' as Lynnfield, Melrose had fewer opportunities to tune their blocking. They'll continue to work on pressing over the net as opposed to getting hands up. 

Foreshadowing

It's unreasonable to expect the Second Coming of the "Great Wall" of Johnson and Wyland. Yet, possibilities lurk with "force" at the net with new combinations. It's early to 'name names'. 

Rust-oleum

Don't expect midseason form after a few practices. Often the early season defense is ahead of the offense as the pass-set-hit timing requires time and repetitions. 

Communication and Collaboration

On-court talk and teamwork continued to grow. Sadie Smith's setting is a strength and the experience of Anna Burns helps mitigate the difficulty of "out of system" play. 

Depth Charge

Melrose has an abundance of defensive talent. They return Burns, Danni DiGiorgio, Gen Overlan, and Kayla Ton as primary defenders. They also have extensive defensive experience with Swiss Army Knives Alisa Dautovic, Elise Marchais, and Adriana Santoriello, who played libero in the offseason. 

A couple of practices this week setup the big PlayDay Saturday at Winchester which will help players "state their case" to work their way into the early season rotation.

Lagniappe. Seek wisdom through experience. Life shares lessons with us every day, often not necessarily what we want to hear but we need to know. 

"Always Do Your Best" and That's Enough

You are seen, heard, and valued.

Seek contribution not recognition or validation. Human nature, as expressed by Maslow's Hierarchy, is what it is. 


The best version of ourselves (the apex of the pyramid) becomes "mature simplicity." Make our work ethic - attitude, choices, effort - our brand to find peace of mind.  

Coach Stein is wise to advise not becoming dependent on validation from others. 








"Once a Red Hawk" - Home Scrimmage Today Versus North Andover at 5 P.M.

Anton Myrer's Once an Eagle is a classic novel about military experience, centered around a not subtle comparison between two men - Sam Damon and Courtney Massengale.

The book is exhausting and graphic (2000 pages). Don't read it. This ChatGPT summary has merit:

Sam Damon is the moral center of Anton Myrer's Once an Eagle. He is deliberately constructed as the counterweight to Courtney Massengale: Damon pursues responsibility; Massengale pursues advancement. The publisher's own description captures the distinction—Damon puts “duty, honor, and the men he commands above self-interest,” while Massengale advances through connections and political maneuvering.

For me, Damon's character rests on several traits:

  • Duty before ambition. Damon certainly wants responsibility and advancement, but principally because rank allows him to serve and protect soldiers more effectively. His ambition points outward rather than inward.
  • Moral courage. Physical bravery is almost taken for granted. More important is his willingness to oppose superiors when he believes their decisions will unnecessarily sacrifice soldiers—even when doing so damages his career.
  • Competence. Damon isn't merely virtuous. He studies warfare, prepares obsessively and understands soldiers and terrain. His credibility comes from knowing his craft.
  • Empathy without softness. He demands much from his soldiers because circumstances demand it. But he sees them as human beings rather than pieces on a board.
  • Humility. He doesn't regard rank as proof of superiority. Authority creates an obligation to those below him.
  • Integrity. His behavior remains relatively constant whether anyone important is watching or not.
  • Servant leadership. In contemporary terminology, this may be his defining characteristic: the organization and its people don't exist to advance Sam Damon; Sam Damon exists to serve them.

That explains why Once an Eagle has had such extraordinary staying power in American military leadership education. Damon became an archetype of the field commander—the leader whose legitimacy flows upward from competence and downward from the trust of his people rather than from proximity to powerful people.

But Damon isn't quite the perfect hero

This is where I think the novel becomes considerably more interesting.

His devotion to duty extracts an enormous price from Tommy and his family. The qualities that make him an extraordinary soldier sometimes make him an inadequate husband and father. One thoughtful military critique argues that readers make a mistake by reducing the book to Damon good/Massengale bad: Damon has genuine shortcomings, while Massengale possesses abilities—political intelligence, organizational maneuvering, strategic networking—that leaders actually need when used honorably.

That's an important distinction for coaching.

Damon's lesson isn't:

Ignore ambition. Ignore politics. Sacrifice everything for the mission.

It's closer to:

Never allow ambition to become the mission.

And that fits remarkably well with the coaching principles you've been developing. The Damon coach would be a truth-teller, technically competent, demanding but compassionate, willing to accept responsibility when things go badly and give players credit when things go well. Most importantly, players aren't instruments of the coach's success; the coach is entrusted with helping players succeed.

Massengale asks:

What will this do for my career?

Damon asks:

What does the situation require of me?

That may be the enduring character lesson of Once an Eagle: leadership isn't primarily about possessing authority. It's about accepting responsibility.

And there is a very Wooden-like paradox buried in Damon: the person least preoccupied with getting credit often becomes the person others most want to follow. 

Be the person, the player, and the leader whom others want to follow.