Thursday, December 04, 2025

Maintaining Perspective

Maintain a healthy perspective of sport within your life.

Coach Ellis Lane told us (1970-1973) about priorities:

  • Family
  • Academics
  • Basketball
Winning matters as does individual achievement. But it's not everything. A person or a group can succeed and feel unfulfilled because their relationships suffer.

Winning means much more when you enjoy it with your group. Shared sacrifice (hard work) and friendships stay with you. Cultivate and enjoy them as a vital part of your journey. 

Lagniappe. One of the books I'm reading is former Navy SEAL Jack Carr's "True Believer," from the Terminal List series. Here's a quote:

"Being an “expert” in anything means doing the basics exceptionally well, so Reece started with the fundamentals." Don't "go back to the basics." Never leave them. 

Lagniappe 2. Sport by definition creates and thrives on competition. Be intense and collaborative. Maintaining positive attitudes benefits everyone. It's not easy, but worth the struggle. 

Wednesday, December 03, 2025

A Changing Calculus

"Situational awareness." - from Jack Carr in "True Believer" in Terminal List (Book 2)

Lessons cross domains. The quote above comes in a conversation with the hero, James Reece, a Navy SEAL commander. In sports and in life, you need awareness, communication, and optionality. 

As a set and a match progresses, the situation changes. Maybe they're attacking from the middle or back row. Maybe they emphasize the short game with tips and setter dumps. Don't adhere to an ineffective strategy. 

Former Celtics' assistant Kevin Eastman says that when it's not working:

1) Do it harder.

2) Do it better. 

3) Change personnel.

4) "$&*^ it ain't working..." and change strategy

Volleyball is a thinking person's sport. Serving is both technical (skill) and tactical (strategy). The same goes for attacking. Reading the opponent's serve (for receive) and attacks is vital. Remember the acronym CARE - concentrate, anticipate, react, and execute. 

Lagniappe. Play more competitive ball. 

Stay Ready for Opportunity

When your chance comes - and it always does - seize opportunity.

How many people have heard, "I need a chance?" 

Here are times chances arise? 

  • Every day training skill, learning strategy, building physicality and resilience
  • At your club team practices and games 
  • Working out with a teammate or multiple teammates
  • Participating in strength and conditioning at the high school
  • Summer league
  • Tryouts 
  • Scrimmages 
  • The PlayDay 
  • Every day at volleyball practice - demonstrating you know your responsibility during every activity
  • Showing a positive attitude daily and consistently 
  • Executing during games
  1. Know your job.
  2. Pay attention to detail. 
  3. Put the team first. 
  4. Do your job. Star in your role. 
Do these every day. 

Future Hall of Famer Kevin Durant (now 8th All-Time in NBA scoring) wakes up and asks himself, "How can I get better today?" 

Ask better questions. "What can I do to become a contributor?" 

"Look for the helpers." - Mister Rogers 

Find a mentor. "Mentoring is the only shortcut to excellence."

Lagniappe. Focus begins with each of us.  






Bonus Post: "Maye Bars"

Matthew 4:4

“Man shall not live by bread alone…” 

Regular readers get occasional recipes from the blog. In "The Bear," they point out that many excellent restaurants aren't great at dessert. But that shouldn't hold us back.

My favorites are:

1) Apple crisp

2) Crepes with vanilla ice cream and a topping of blended melted butter, brown sugar, sliced almonds, and Amaretto

3) Chocolate trifle 

Today, I'm sharing Ann Marie Maye's Apple Cinnamon Oat Crumble Bars.

I made some modifications (mainly more apples, I like Macs for baking, although mixing in Honey Crisps is great, too). So, the recipe is more like a hybrid apple crisp/apple bars. 


Enjoy. 

 

Tuesday, December 02, 2025

Leverage Advanced Tools to Become More

Expand your toolbox to increase your probability of academic, athletic, and career success. Commit to becoming a lifelong learner, using more an better tools - better habits, inspired process, and advanced helpers such as AI and mental models.

"You own your paycheck." Your work, your output, will define your role and results. George Clooney wasn't getting many or his desired roles. He "rethought" his auditions, fashioning himself not as an actor looking for work but as a solution for directors needing workers.

Want to get into a particular college or field? Want more playing time and a bigger role? 

  • What would that look like?
  • How can I train for that? 
  • Am I willing to pay that price
  • Who can help me? 

Harness the power of AI or it will replace some of your work and possibly your job. 

Let's connect AI to the Banquet. We need a "prompt" and AI then "predicts" or "hallucinates" a response based on having read trillons of words - the essence of a "Large Language Model." 

Here is one possibility (from Chat GPT Plus):

Prompt: "Melrose Volleyball (MVB) holds an annual banquet, a celebration of the hard work and achievements of the players and coaches. In a world of ordinary and extraordinary inputs, how can the banquet help leverage performance and inspire young athletes to become their best? Please provide three specific ways, acting as a mentor for these young people."
ChatGPT said:

Here are three powerful, specific ways the MVB banquet can move beyond ceremony and become a performance lever—a night that plants seeds young athletes will carry for years.

I’m framing this as if you’re speaking to them as a mentor: someone who’s seen how habits, attitude, and character shape outcomes long after the trophies fade.

1. Show young players what excellence looks like — and make it feel attainable.

A banquet gives something practice cannot:
a living model of who they can become.

When seniors share their stories—grit, setbacks, breakthroughs—young players hear:

  • “She didn’t start until junior year… and now she’s all-league.”

  • “She battled injury but led with her voice.”

  • “She learned to serve tough by taking 200 reps a day.”

Those narratives are blueprints, not fairy tales.

They turn “excellence” from an abstract idea into something concrete, human, and possible.

Mentor message:

“You don’t become great by magic. You become great by choices—one day at a time. What you celebrate tonight is not talent. It’s work, resilience, and self-belief. And every one of you is capable of that.”

This is modeling psychology at its purest:
Exposure to real achievement expands belief in one’s own potential.

2. Reinforce the identity of MVB as a legacy, not just a season.

Young people rise to the expectations of the cultures they join.

A banquet says, without needing words:

MVB is bigger than any one team.
You are part of a long red-and-white line.
And your turn is coming.

Displaying past championship banners, highlighting alumni, honoring traditions (MVB 25, “Do the Work,” the middle–libero pipeline, signature drills, the culture standards)—this gives every player:

  • A sense of belonging

  • A sense of responsibility

  • A sense of upward trajectory

Identity is the strongest performance driver in sports psychology.

Mentor message:

“You inherited this program from the women who came before you. Next year, you hand it forward. What do you want the story to say about your chapter?”

When athletes see themselves as caretakers of a legacy, their daily standards elevate.

3. Translate recognition into fuel — not comfort.

The banquet is a moment of recognition.
But the mentor’s job is to flip recognition into motivation.

You do it by connecting achievement back to process:

  • A Most Improved player? Highlight her habits, not just the result.

  • A Defensive Award? Praise the consistency, communication, courage.

  • A Role Player Award? Hammer the unselfishness, reliability, and culture impact.

  • A Senior Leadership Award? Emphasize daily standards, composure, emotional intelligence.

This ensures players walk out thinking:

“If I adopt those behaviors, I can take the next step too.”

Many teams “celebrate the outcome.”
Great teams codify the behaviors that produced it.

Mentor message:

“Awards don’t define you. What you did to earn them does. And those habits are available to every single player in this room.”

By reframing awards as evidence of replicable habits, you turn a banquet into a motivational accelerant instead of a pat on the back.

In Summary

The MVB banquet can be a performance engine when it:

  1. Models excellence through authentic senior stories.

  2. Strengthens identity by reinforcing MVB as a legacy to uphold.

  3. Turns recognition into motivation by spotlighting habits, not just achievements.

Done right, the banquet becomes not just a celebration of who they were this season, but an ignition point for who they can become next season.

This blog can’t make you a better person, more effective student, or an elite volleyballer. The work that you do and your capacity to translate thinking into action separates you. 

How good do you want to be? 

Chess Not Checkers



Screenshot, "Chess Tactics" application

Sport is sacrifice.

Chess asks us to address the consequences of our actions, both offensively and defensively. Former World Champion Garry Kasparov says that it's about knowing what do when there's something to do and what not to do when there's nothing to do.

How is that like volleyball? Sometimes you can't attack a ball with a smash and have to keep it in play. Sometimes a "hard" serve carries too much risk. But when opportunities arise, aggressive and consistent play creates advantage. 

Practicing hard to improve teammates when you won't always get more playing time is a sacrifice that great teammates make. Sometimes players sacrifice more "shots" to elevate teammates. 

In chess, you have to consider your position, both offensive and defense, the opponent's position, and opportunities to gain material or win outright. 

1) White to play. 

2) White's queen is under attack

3) Black also threatens checkmate by attacking the bishop pawn with the queen, forcing the king to the corner, which creates mate by moving the queen to the back rank

4) White has no move to gain material but has something better. White can attack the king on the rook rank, but sacrifices the queen as the knight captures it. Then, the knight attacks the king with checkmate as the bishop controls the white square adjacent, leaving the king no escape. 

Sometimes in sport and in life, you win through sacrifice not self-indulgent actions. 

Monday, December 01, 2025

What You Put on Film Is Reality

The best players put performance on tape. Catch the eye of college by a highlight video. Then they watch a complete game on tape. And then they see a player live at a showcase or tournament. 

Video is the truth machine.

Watch your performance on MHS-TV video. Learn to use cellphone "personal" video to evaluate your form and function. 

Studying Video

Become your own coach to study tape. First, watch coaches analyze video to find out what they watch. 

Another video to study defense 


When watching video, learn to use slow motion (alter play speed) to get more information on reading plays and assessing technique when watching yourself. 

When watching your video, work to understand why your read or execution worked or didn't. Pay attention to detail

MVB End of Season Awards and Banquet

Melrose volleyball closed out the 2025 campaign with the annual banquet and awards ceremony at Rosaria's.

Coach Scott Celli emceed the program with certificates awarded to players at all levels (JVb, JVa, Varsity) as well as varsity letters, bars, and stars (captains). 

Coach Celli recapped special recognition for players:

MAVCA Division 2 All-State 

Sabine Wenzel


Middlesex League All-Conference  

Sabine Wenzel


Freedom Division MVP 

Sabine Wenzel


Middlesex League All-Stars

Sabine Wenzel

Sadie Smith 


Melrose Special Recognition awards included:

Top Server - Dani DiGiorgio

Top Offensive Player - Sadie Smith

Top Defender - Anna Burns

Most Improved - Adriana Santoriello

Unsung Hero - Elise Marchais

MVP - Sabine Wenzel

Coach's Award - Anna Burns


The much-awaited captaincy selections were announced:


Left to right: Ella Friedlaender, Elise Marchais, Sadie Smith, Anna Burns and graduating captain Sabine Wenzel 



 

Thoughts on the Banquet and Captaincy

The "Banquet" affords a team one final opportunity to share experiences after the season is over.

Some might call the structure, "formulaic," and that is exactly why it has meaning.

The food is always good and the company better.

For many, the highlight will be the selection of captains. I asked ChatGPT Plus (AI) for thoughts on captaincy selection. Although the process is familiar from history, the selections are not known. 

Leadership often emerges in real teams based on value. 

High standards, high work ethic, discipline, accountability, unselfishness, academically solid — is exactly the kind of leader teammates trust. There’s a specific archetype here:

⭐ The Credibility-by-Work Ethic Captain

Not the loudest.
Not the flashiest.
Not the natural star.
But the one everyone knows they can count on.

Players don’t vote for leaders accidentally.

They choose them because:

  • They show up every day.

  • They do the hardest jobs willingly.

  • They hold themselves to the standard you’d ask of others.

  • They listen first.

  • They are good to everyone — and not just teammates in their lane.

And that kind of leadership is sticky. It leaves residue. Coaches remember it decades later not because of statistics, but because it’s real, rare, and durable.

Star-led teams can be good.
Talent-led teams can be explosive.
But trust-led teams win environments, not just games.

There’s a universal coaching lesson here

The right leader is seldom the most talented.
The right leader is the one others are willing to follow.

Trust the process. 

Sunday, November 30, 2025

End of Season Banquet, A First Step and Leap of Faith into the Future

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. This blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose institution. 

The end of season gathering is a staple of MVB culture, regardless of the school symbols...

The evening: 

  • Provides closure to the season
  • Extends the program culture
  • Recognizes each player for their contributions
  • Celebrates special accomplishments
  • Announces leadership transition (captains)
Basketball executive and author Kevin Eastman reminds us, "You own your paycheck." Your work this season is the "down payment" for future success. The implication is that you will make future payments.

You have significance to the community. Young girls relate to you and your accomplishments. Some will want to become what you stand for in the future. 

Take a moment to think of the sacrifices of the people in your lives who helped make this possible. And reflect on how much Coach Ryan Schmitt would like to be here but cannot because of his current deployment.  


How You Do Things

 "Making sure we have a purpose on how we do things is important." - Nets Coach Jordi Fernandez to Gary Washburn in The Boston Globe

As readers, think critically. Does this apply to me? Can I use this information to grow personal and team success?

Find purpose in your approach.

A sign in the UNC Women's Soccer locker room reads: 

Excellence Is Our Only Agenda

Fashion a 'Worthy Culture'

How you do anything is how you do everything. As James Kerr wrote in Legacy, "Leave the jersey in a better place."

Standards

What is our "Standard of Performance?" Working and playing to our potential demands constant attention. Never "go through the motions." Excellence requires, "Don't cheat the drill." 

Virtues

Virtues are "old fashioned." Benjamin Franklin created a 'tablet' of virtues for which to strive. 


He was not humorless. Of humility he said, "Surely if I were to achieve it, I would be proud." 

Ambitious Givers

Organizational psychologist and Professor Adam Grant in Give and Take describes three personal styles - Takers, Matchers, and Givers. He notes that "Givers" do the best and the worst...but the best are ambitious givers. Ambitious givers can be great teammates. 

Find purpose within and flourish. 

Lagniappe. Key points from Dan Pink's seminal work, "Drive"

Here are five key points from Daniel H. Pink’s Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us:

1. Humans are driven more by intrinsic than extrinsic motivation

Traditional carrots-and-sticks (rewards, bonuses, punishment) work for simple, mechanical tasks, but often backfire on complex or creative work. Meaning, curiosity, and purpose drive higher performance.

2. Motivation requires three core elements: Autonomy, Mastery, Purpose

This is Pink’s central framework. High-performing individuals and organizations create environments where people have:

  • Autonomy — control over how they work

  • Mastery — a chance to improve continuously

  • Purpose — connection to something larger than themselves

3. Autonomy increases engagement and creativity

People perform better when they can choose methods, schedule, tools, and approach. Micromanagement kills motivation; freedom fuels innovation.

4. Mastery is a mindset and a process, not a destination

Mastery is asymptotic — you never fully reach it, but you can always improve. Pink stresses deliberate practice, feedback, and challenge at the edge of one's current ability.

5. Purpose is the highest form of motivation

People work harder, persist longer, and feel more fulfilled when they believe their work matters. Connecting tasks to meaning transforms effort into commitment.

What matters most and defines us comes from within. There's an old joke about the Dalai Lama who orders from a hot dog vendor:

"I'd like ONE WITH EVERYTHING" and hands the guy $10

The vendor serves him but returns no change. The holy man says, "where's my change?" The vendor answers, "CHANGE COMES FROM WITHIN." 

In Search of Excellence (for Your Child) - Distraction Defines Disappointment

Well along life's back nine, I can only hope to improve other people's children's academic experience. 

As "brevity is the soul of wit', listen to advice from Jean Twenge in a New York Times (11/16/25) Op-Ed piece entitled, "The Screen that Ate Your Child's Education." 

First, the highlights: 

1) Expanded use of electronic devices correlated with a decline in academic performance...globally. 

2) Teachers strongly favor (83%) the bell-to-bell ban on smartphones. 

3) Globally a nadir of academic performance occurred in 2022, probably a combination of COVID-19 and electronic distraction. 

4) College students who take handwritten notes are 58% more likely to get A's. High device distraction correlated with increased likelihood of failure. 

5) Mandating electronic devices (e.g. computers) doesn't correlate with better performance. 

What does any of this have to do with volleyball? 

"How you do anything is how you do everything." Better study techniques yield better academic performance. Who would have guessed? The best players study the game. 

"Get in your notebook." The best players I coached (Cecilia Kay and Sam Dewey) were avid students of the game and notebook users. 

Apply critical thinking to grow in sport as well as in the classroom. Volleyball players read serves, opponent attacks and defenders. The ability to recognize subtle differences in body position gives players advantages that translate to better play. 

Here are highlights from the article, curated by ChatGPT Plus: 

Digital distraction is devastating for learning. In both college and K–12 settings, the more time students spend on non-school tasks (social media, games, streaming) during class, the lower their exam scores—even after controlling for prior ability.

Unrestricted personal device use in school has quietly eaten away at attention, reading time, and serious academic effort, contributing meaningfully to the learning crisis—not just in the U.S. but globally.

The piece ends with a call for parents, educators, and policymakers to stop assuming kids can “self-regulate” against billion-dollar attention machines and instead redesign the environment—especially school—to put learning ahead of screen entertainment.

Saturday, November 29, 2025

Two Pieces of Advice to Carry Forward

"Never let your net worth define your self-worth." - Todd Harrison  

Simplified:

1) "Control what you can control." We can't control a lot in this world. But we control: 

  • Attitude
  • Choices
  • Effort
Attitude is contagious. Positive attitude breeds positivity. 

Choose well. "Do not let what you can't do interfere with what you can do." - Coach John Wooden  Choices extend far beyond the court. Good or bad choices have a habit of sticking with you. 

"Always bring our best."

2) Do not let others define you. Define yourself. 

Do the right things, the right way, all the time. That approach earns you respect. Lead by being on time, coachable, and prepared for opportunity. Model excellence. When you've done your best, what more could you have done? 


 


"The Price of Admission Is Contributing"

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. This blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose institution. 

"Learn before you lead." - General Stan McChrystal

General Stan McChrystal, author of Team of Teams, informs an abundance of leadership principles in his books and in his MasterClass.

He shares that as a West Point cadet, his early academic career was less than stellar. He turned it around after an advisor told him that the skills of an Army officer and cadet are not the same. 

Studies of flag rank (senior) military officers have shown them to be in the top five percent across the board except in one area - flexibility. General McChrystal is an exception, understanding flexibility, although without sacrificing character or integrity. 

Priority One

"The price of admission is contributing." By opening up daily calls to more stakeholders in Iraq, they increased collaboration and efficacy. They "cross-populated" groups with a specialist from another organization to improve communication and collaboration. 

MVB application. All play is integrated. Blockers make the back row more effective. Coverage helps respond during offensive attack. Setters and especially liberos create better attacks, especially "out of system." 

Priority Two

Speed, collaboration, and adaptability are essential in the military, business, and sport. Out-of-date information rapidly loses meaning. The quality of information and how it is shared and applied helps define success. 

MVB application. Identify early what opponents want to do. Do they emphasize the short game (tips) or power (outside or inside)? Wakefield attacked the deep corners last season. 

Priority Three

Leverage people, process, and communication. Failed communication is "siloed." There's a fallacy to the "need to know" principle. Everyone has to understand the plan and its implementation. 

MVB application. Defenders should know 'attack fundamentals' to read and derive clues about the type and location of attack. 

Summary (less is more)

  • Contribute
  • Collaborate
  • Communicate in real-time 

Lagniappe. Don't settle for less. 

Friday, November 28, 2025

Being a Great Teammate

Experience and time teach us where we fit on the spectrum of athletic performance and achievement. Our peers' voices tell us how they see us as teammates.

MVB culture has always produced teamwork. 

The Daily Coach discusses being a great teammate from time to time. Here's an adaptation:

Every time you step on the floor, in practice or games, three ways show you belong. 

  1. Check your ego at the door. ‘We’ matters more than ‘me.’ Stay humble. 

  2. Arrive early ("Dean Smith time"), stay focused, finish strong. Energize yourself and others. 

  3. Lift your teammates up...in the locker room, off the court, and under pressure. That’s not optional. That’s what it means to be a Great Teammate.”

Here's a checklist created by ChatGPT Plus using my principles and voice and a few external articles:

THE GREAT TEAMMATE CHECKLIST

1. Team First — Always

  • Speaks we more than me

  • Share credit, take responsibility

  • Root for others’ success even when minutes or touches go elsewhere

2. Reliable & Consistent

  • On time, warmed up, and mentally locked in

  • Same effort Tuesday practice as Friday night under lights

  • Coaches and teammates never wonder which version will show up

3. Hungry to Improve

  • Use feedback, doesn’t defend ego

  • Track growth — stronger, quicker, smarter week to week

  • Ask questions, seek reps, choose challenges not comfort

4. Communicates with Purpose

  • Talk that helps: clear, loud, solution-focused

  • Body language that lifts

  • Listens before speaking; understands before responding

5. Emotionally Intelligent

  • Stay composed when match tightens

  • Know what teammates need - support, fire, calm, truth

  • Don’t gossip or fracture - protects the circle

6. Makes Teammates Better

  • Encourage, energize, connect

  • Win the dull drills and ugly possessions

  • Bring friction when needed:

    “That’s not who we are - we’re better than that.”

7. Competes in the Mud

  • Chases 50–50 balls like they’re 90–10

  • Loves long rallies, grind-outs, side-out wars

  • Doesn’t shrink in tough rotations - wants the serve, wants the moment

8. Humble, Hungry, Smart

  • Humble → serve the team

  • Hungry → work when no one sees

  • Smart → read people, read play, elevate the whole gym

The Quick-Test Version

A player is a great teammate if:

  1. You trust them in the 24–24 moment.

  2. You’d want to share a foxhole - or a fifth set - with them.

  3. The gym is better with them in it.

If all three are “yes,” you’ve got one of the dogs.

The simple answer from the best teammates is that it's always about the team first. Great teammates bring a presence, regardless of minutes, role, and recognition. 

Lagniappe. There's a story about Nelson Mandela's father. He used to bring young Nelson to community meetings. Mandela's father always spoke last. That afforded a chance to hear everyone else first and then to deliver a more nuanced response. 

nuance
noun
  1. 1. A subtle or slight degree of difference, as in meaning, feeling, or tone; a gradation.
  2. 2. Expression or appreciation of subtle shades of meaning, feeling, or tone.
    a rich artistic performance, full of nuance.

Thursday, November 27, 2025

Landing Zone - Style and Substance

How might we deliver more effective messages? A message's intent isn't the same as its impact. Two people can hear it differently.

Each season, Coach Scott Celli delivers a message at the end of season breakup dinner. "Every spot is open." Incumbent players should recognize that they need to grow their game. Ambitious players should see opportunity if they grow theirs. 

Only six players play at a time. With capable returners nearly doubling that number, there's a "numbers crunch." 

"Control what you can control." 

  • Grow your skill. 
  • Study the game (strategy). 
  • Become a more explosive athlete. 
  • Raise your resilience. 
Complacency is the enemy of excellence. 

Lagniappe. Excellent "deception" tips from Coach Donny. He takes away "reading keys" from defenders with an aggressive approach, full back swing, and elbow back. Use cellphone video to monitor your progress.
 

Wednesday, November 26, 2025

Condition for Serve Receive


You are a computer with hardware (body) and software (brain and nervous system). For best performance, upgrade both. 

Work on your read (software based) and your reaction/execution complex of footwork and platform. 

You don't have time at practice to train strength, conditioning, and quickness. 

Your training blends aerobic conditioning (e.g. treadmill, cycle, stepper), strength (weight and resistance training), and balance (stability and core stability). 

Here is the truth from Coach Nick Saban:
 

 

Improve by Doing These Five Daily

Happy Thanksgiving! 

"Little things make big things happen." - John Wooden

Simple is seldom easy. Work on yourselves to become your better version. Consider these: 

  • "Champions do extra." 
  • "Unrequired work" separates exceptional from average.
  • "Do five more." Read five more pages, study five more minutes, do five more reps. 

1) Jump rope for five minutes. Jumping rope improves endurance, quickness, and coordination. During high school basketball in 1972, we started practice with five minutes of jumping rope. You must be in great shape to jump rope for five minutes.  


2) Win the morning. Develop a morning routine that works for you...mine includes a light breakfast, reading, writing, and Duolingo Spanish. 

3) Improve your mental strength. Mindfulness improves focus, reduces anxiety, improves sleep, and reduces circulating stress hormones. The UCLA Mindfulness site shares guided meditations. Mindfulness is apolitical and non-religious, so you won't step on anyone's toes. 

4) Journal. Find a few minutes a day to capture your thoughts. Perhaps you could write down five concepts you learned and three items of gratitude. Review your "gratitude journal" every few weeks. 

5) Work out with a teammate. Improve with 'deliberate practice', consistency, skill development, and competition. Maybe your workout is 'virtual' via Facetime or whatever apps you favor. Build your friendships and your skills. 

Lagniappe. Good advice from Coach Beck. 



 

Repost: Focusing on Offseason Craft

First, reposting your "Out Pitch." Exceptional players have an unstoppable talent or, more commonly, one dominant skill and "counters." In other words, attacker can smash, but also tip, hit cut shots, find seams, and defend their position. 

The more skills you have, the more ways to get and stay on the court. 

Second, MVB has always been a meritocracy. There's no gifting of positions or time to anyone. Flourish by adding value to the team, impacting winning, and making those around you better. 

Here's a post from Duke Basketball: 

Early last season, a parent said that in their family, there were only two seasons - volleyball season and offseason volleyball. I'm a big believer in multi-sport play, but I respect that level of commitment. 


Tuesday, November 25, 2025

What Does Leadership Mean to You?

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. This blog is not an official publication of any City of Melrose institution.

Leadership means different things to everyone. First, let's listen to author Simon Sinek discuss leadership traits that resonate for him.  


He emphasizes CIC - courage, integrity, and communication

As a young person, you formulate leadership ideas - your attitudes, beliefs, and values. Don't blindly and rigidly accept what you hear or read. Learn to think for yourselves

What does leadership mean to you? When I think about leadership, the first word that comes to mind is service. A leader serves her community and serves her team

UCLA Coach John Wooden was one of the great coaches of any sport in any era. You may remember that he developed the "Pyramid of Success." He wrote a "Letter to Players," of which the full text is unavailable, but this excerpt exists:

“I will not always be right, but I will always be fair.

Every decision I make will be in the best interest of the team as a whole. You may not agree with every decision. You may not like every decision. But you can be sure every decision is made for one purpose: to help us become the best team we are capable of  becoming.”

The emphasis is doing what is in the best interest of the team. That serves the team. 

Remember the two qualities of the best players: 

1) They impact winning. 

2) They make the team, the players around them better. 

There's a saying attributed to Coach Don Meyer, "Every parent would rather have their son be All-State instead of winning States." 

Concerning team sports, that isn't "team first" thinking. Yes, exceptional teams need excellent players. And they thrive with leaders capable of putting the team first - serving the team. 

Exceptional leaders listen and inspire others by saying and doing what is right, not what is easy or convenient. 

Lagniappe. How do you decide on captains

Lagniappe 2. "It can never stop." 

Monday, November 24, 2025

A Humility Mantra

Approach every day with humility, prepared to learn from all those around us.  

WII - FM

Culture evolves according to the leaders and followers within a program. Culture is an "inside job." Nobody knows the MVB culture better than the coaches and the players. Together they create the ecosystem that represents "culture."

Excerpt from Coach Jagacki's post: 

The page I’m sharing today highlights three questions every employee — and every athlete — is asking about their environment:
1️⃣ What’s important around here?
2️⃣ How can I make a difference? 

3️⃣ What’s in it for me when I do? 

Return to Teddy Roosevelt's quote, "Comparison is the thief of joy." One way to "live with" comparison is by comparing ourselves to whom we were yesterday or previously. You become your standard, your "North Star."

Establish your standard of attention, preparation, effort, and recovery. Meet that standard day after day, doing your best; there should be no regret. Our best won't necessarily be the best

When a talented group of athletes has insightful coaching with shared vision, mission, and commitment, exceptional results can happen. 

It's not WII-FM (what's in it for me?). It becomes this is who we are and that is what we have become. 

Lagniappe. Know who you are.