Thursday, May 15, 2025

Do These and Prosper

Simplicity works. Stay simple. 

1) Model excellence at home, school, and in other activities.

2) Make everyone around you a better person as they imitate you.

3) Impact the game. Impact winning.  

Unlock Your Hidden Potential

"Read. Read. Read. Read. Read." - Werner Herzog

Read to learn and to provoke thought. Adam Grant's Hidden Potential shares ideas for unearthing potential.

He discusses the humble sea sponge. It filters, absorbs nutrients, and grows. Sea sponges leverage this strategy to live up to 2,000 years!

Cognitive skills aren't the best predictor of success. Other factors including social and collaborative skills matter more.

1) Character. Character reflects both who we are and what we do. In the television series Firefly, Captain Malcolm Reynolds often says the wrong things, insensitive or worse. But as a leader, he always does the right thing. Do the hard, uncomfortable work of putting in the work over putting in the time. 

2) Mentoring. "Mentoring is the only shortcut to excellence." Learn something from everyone. Yet remember the words of Abraham Lincoln, "I learn from everyone, often times it’s what not to do."

3) Progress. The best way to seek progress is not comparing ourselves to others but to who we were yesterday. Believe in our capacity to grow (growth mindset) over innate ability.

Take a few minutes to read key points. 

AI Takes:

From DeepSeek

Adam Grant’s Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things explores how individuals and organizations can unlock their untapped abilities. Here are five key takeaways from the book:

1. Skills Are Built, Not Born

  • Grant challenges the myth of innate talent, arguing that success comes from deliberate practice, learning strategies, and perseverance.

  • Growth is about how you learn, not just what you know.

2. The Power of Imperfect Progress

  • Embracing discomfort and imperfection is crucial for improvement.

  • Early struggles often lead to greater long-term success than early ease.

3. Scaffolding for Success

  • Effective learning requires structured support ("scaffolding")—mentors, feedback systems, and incremental challenges.

  • Organizations and individuals should design environments that encourage gradual mastery.

4. Character Over Confidence

  • Traits like determination, curiosity, and proactivity matter more than self-assurance.

  • Grant highlights the importance of motivation to learn rather than just motivation to perform.

5. The Strength of Weak Ties

  • Diverse, less familiar connections (not just close mentors) often provide the most valuable insights and opportunities.

  • Networking broadly fuels creativity and growth.

6. Redefining Success as Progress

  • Achievement isn’t just about reaching goals but about surpassing your own expectations over time.

  • Grant encourages measuring growth relative to your starting point, not others’ achievements.

From ChatGPT: 

Adam Grant’s Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things centers on how people can grow beyond what natural talent might predict—through deliberate learning, resilience, and well-designed systems of support. Here are five to six key takeaways:


1. Potential is not fixed—it’s built.
Grant challenges the idea that talent is innate and static. Instead, he emphasizes that potential is something developed over time through effort, feedback, and the right environment.


2. The best learners embrace discomfort.
Growth often requires stepping outside your comfort zone. Grant highlights the importance of "desirable difficulties"—struggles that promote deeper learning—and encourages seeking out challenges rather than avoiding them.


3. Character skills matter more than raw ability.
Traits like grit, humility, curiosity, and self-control play a larger role in long-term success than raw intelligence or talent. These character skills can be cultivated and are essential to fulfilling potential.


4. Scaffolding helps people rise.
Supportive structures—such as good coaching, mentorship, and collaborative communities—can accelerate learning and performance. Grant underscores that success is often social, not solo.


5. Progress is often nonlinear.
Grant points out that people grow at different rates and that early struggles don’t predict later success. He encourages redefining excellence as a trajectory, not just an outcome.


6. Excellence comes from systems that develop everyone.
Rather than only identifying stars, great organizations build cultures that help everyone improve. This inclusive approach to growth can unlock hidden potential across a team or institution.

Lagniappe. "The only thing that matters is the next ball." 

"Just Be You"

Often the best advice we give others is the simplest. "Just be you." 

Conduct a MasterClass with Your Life

All opinions expressed are solely my own.

Why do coaches coach? Michelin 3-star chef Thomas Keller says, "Chefs cook to nurture people." Coaches coach for much the same reason. Seeing former players winning in life has imponderable meaning. 

"Watching him lead the committee is a master class in the art of investing—asking the right questions, focusing on the relevant information, and mentoring the investment staff."  - "How to Invest: Masters on the Craft" by David Rubinstein (discussing Stanley Druckenmiller) 

  • Ask the right questions. What makes you succeed as a student-athlete? What would make you more successful? 
  • Focus on the relevant information. If something in your training doesn't impact results favorably, "bin it." 
  • Mentor. Mentoring is about making everyone around us better. Everyone benefits from coaching. Reading and "making friends with the dead" advances us. 

Wednesday, May 14, 2025

Three Points of Emphasis for the Final Three Months of the Offseason

Three words to embrace:

1) Today

2) Habits

3) Investment

Today. It's our attitude, choices, and effort TODAY that defines whom we become this season. 

Habits. "We make our habits and our habits make us." For example, imagine that you've made a commitment to work out daily. James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, says "don't miss twice." If we had a legitimate reason not to work out today, don't allow that to spill into tomorrow. Each application of a habit is a vote of confirmation for our desired identity. 

Investment. Choose to invest our time not spend it. It's not always how much time we put in, it's how much work. Learn to focus and maximize the benefits from the work. 

Lagniappe. The power of "don't miss twice" from AI. 

The phrase "don't miss twice" from James Clear’s Atomic Habits is a deceptively simple but powerful principle. It means that while perfection is unrealistic, consistency is essential—and the key to consistency is not letting one slip-up become a pattern.

Here's the essence:

  • Missing once is human. Life happens: you skip a workout, eat something off plan, forget to journal, or lose your temper.

  • Missing twice is a trend. It starts to form a new, undesired habit—a reversal of the progress you’ve made.

Clear’s point is not to obsess over never making a mistake, but to have a mindset of course correction. The danger isn’t in the first miss; it’s in allowing that miss to become a justification for abandoning the habit (“Well, I already messed up, might as well…”).

Why it matters:

  1. Focuses on resilience, not rigidity. You don’t need to be perfect, just persistent.

  2. Builds identity-based habits. Recovering quickly reinforces your self-image: "I’m the kind of person who gets back on track."

  3. Prevents spirals. One mistake doesn’t lead to five; a stumble doesn’t become a fall.

Applied practically:

  • You skip a run. Don’t dwell—lace up the next day.

  • You eat fast food. Fine—make the next meal healthy.

  • You skip a study session. Show up at the next one.

In short:

"Don't miss twice" is a rule of thumb that emphasizes forgiveness for the first mistake and accountability for the second. It’s about recovering quickly and preserving momentum, which is often the most underrated factor in long-term success.

 

Tuesday, May 13, 2025

Defining Destiny

 

The Patriots posted large glossy photos of highlights from wins. Then the winning slowed down. Bill Belichick took down the photos. Teams began to feel 'entitled' to the Patriots legacy when they had not established their own. 

MVB has a wonderful legacy of success. Legacy doesn't provide special advantage to MVB 25. Games don't start with a 10-0 advantage or a handicap of opponents.

Still, it's attractive to want to be part of a successful program, to put up numerals on an already-busy banner. 

Define your destiny. Do that with great habits, great process, and commitment to 'team first' mindset. 

Lagniappe. Receive better. 

Volleyball Signup Today for 8th Graders

8th grade sign up/information meeting this morning. Get on board! 

Monday, May 12, 2025

What You Will Remember

Sure, you'll remember selection into MVB. You might remember the first game you get into. You won't remember many details from most of the games.

You will remember your teammates, the friendships, and how you treated each other. Think about that as you prepare for the season, as you play with them this summer, and maybe if you attend a camp together.  

Study Greatness, "Mamba Mentality"

Everyone knows Kobe Bryant, the Black Mamba, for his championships, skill, and work ethic. What lies at the core of “Mamba Mentality?”

Start with accomplishments:

  • Five NBA Championships, two time Finals MVP
  • Fourth All-Time NBA scoring leader 33,643
  • 18 Time All-Star, four time All-Star game MVP
  • 11 Time First team All-NBA
  • 12 Time NBA All-Defensive team, nine times First Team
  • Two Olympic gold medals
Ask "What If?" Worth remembering...Bryant saw the movie Rudy and wondered what could be accomplished with his natural gifts and the determination of the Notre Dame walk-on. 

ChatGPT Summarizes Five key points from Mamba Mentality

Obsessive Preparation
Kobe emphasized detailed preparation—studying opponents, watching game film, and mastering fundamentals. He believed success came from outworking everyone, not just during games but every day in practice and recovery.

Relentless Work Ethic
His legendary early morning workouts and willingness to push through pain and fatigue exemplified his belief that hard work could surpass talent. He sought marginal gains in every area of his game.

Attention to Detail
Kobe approached basketball with precision, studying footwork, angles, and mechanics. Whether mimicking Michael Jordan or learning from soccer and dance, he constantly refined the smallest elements of his play.

Mental Resilience
The "Mamba Mentality" meant cultivating toughness—thriving under pressure, bouncing back from setbacks, and staying focused on long-term goals. Kobe treated adversity as an opportunity to grow stronger.

Love for the Craft
Above all, Kobe had deep respect and passion for the game. He saw basketball as art, constantly evolving and demanding full commitment. That love drove his dedication, creativity, and competitive fire.

Study available video on YouTube of exceptional MVB players and teams. The game has evolved - skill, 'volleyball IQ', physicality, and resilience remain core competencies for complete players. Your habits define the person and the player you become. 



Sunday, May 11, 2025

"It's Not Halloween"

"Champions behave like champions before they are..." - Bill Walsh

Attitude is everything. Believe in your coaches, your teammates, and in yourself. 

Dalio's Five Step Program

Ray Dalio ran Bridgewater, the largest hedge fund. He wrote a book "Principles" and preaches a five-step program

Step 1: Know your goals.

Know what you want and choose a direction to get there. Coach Scott Celli always says, "win the final game." 

Step 2: Encounter problems and fail.

Overcome inevitable failure. "Failure is not final." Keep grinding. 

Step 3: Diagnose the problem’s root cause.

What is the problem, the fixable issue? Execution revolves around people, strategy, and operations.  

Step 4: Design a way to get around the problem.

Be solution-oriented. Performing in the moment defines a team's legacy. 

Step 5: Take action.

Work the solution. The first solution may not work. Basketball thinker Kevin Eastman says, "do it harder, do it better, change personnel, and lastly "#$%& it ain't work." Then change. One season Alyssa DiRaffaele moved from attacker to libero with great results. 

Lagniappe. Service is the only part of the game during which the offense has total control. Teams have to counter that. 

Saturday, May 10, 2025

Make Yourself a Leader

Click through and read the entire thread. Everyone wants success; not everyone has the will to make a daily, special effort to succeed. 









"Team, Teammate, Self"

Happy Mothers' Day to the women who make every day special. 

As you progress through sports and life, develop a philosophy using the best principles and examples you experience and discover. In The Art of Winning, Coach Bill Belichick discusses Admiral Tom Lynch and "Team, Teammate, Self."

Adolescents often show "egocentric behavior" as in "what's in it for me?" Maturity changes that as people have responsibilities to families, careers, and community.

MVB has always valued team and Coach Scott Celli and his staff make decisions in the best interest of the team. That can cause distress as players become disappointed or disillusioned with their minutes, role, and recognition.

You may remember the Coach Auriemma video where he discusses shot selection. If not...  

"The wrong guy is taking the wrong shot." Know what is a "good shot" for you and your teammates. And prioritize "Team, teammate, self." 

Here's the ChatGPT elaboration...

Navy Admiral Tom Lynch is widely credited with helping popularize the leadership and cultural philosophy known as "Team, Teammate, Self." This framework, rooted in military and athletic environments—especially the U.S. Naval Academy—is a simple but powerful hierarchy for decision-making and prioritization that reinforces selflessness, discipline, and cohesion.

Who is Admiral Tom Lynch?

Admiral Thomas C. Lynch is a retired United States Navy Admiral who served as Superintendent of the U.S. Naval Academy from 1991 to 1994. A former football player at Navy, Lynch earned respect for his leadership, character, and deep understanding of the culture and values of service academies. His tenure at Annapolis was marked by a renewed focus on honor, discipline, and team identity—especially in athletics and the broader development of midshipmen.

The Philosophy: Team, Teammate, Self

At its core, "Team, Teammate, Self" is a prioritization mindset that teaches individuals to subordinate their personal needs to the success of the group. It’s a simple ranking:

  1. Team – The mission, the unit, the institution.

  2. Teammate – Those beside you; your peers and partners.

  3. Self – Your own needs and recognition.

This ordering builds selfless leadership and reinforces a culture where each person plays for something larger than themselves.

Application

  1. Military: In the Navy, as in any branch of the armed forces, unit cohesion and collective mission success are paramount. This mindset ensures that each sailor or officer is grounded in a shared sense of duty.

  2. Sports: The concept is heavily used in programs like Navy Football, where players are reminded that success comes from sacrificing personal glory for the success of the team. Coaches use it to build accountable and resilient team cultures.

  3. Life and Leadership: Outside the military and sports, the "Team, Teammate, Self" model is a useful touchstone for leadership decisions—asking yourself whether your actions put the group first, support others, and only then address your own needs.

Lynch’s Impact

Lynch didn’t invent the idea, but his leadership helped institutionalize it at Navy. He embodied the values in how he led and mentored others. Since then, the concept has become part of the Academy’s leadership curriculum and is frequently cited by Navy athletes, officers, and leaders across domains as a grounding principle.

Lagniappe. MVB success is nothing new. Clips from sectionals in 2007. 

"Melrose traveled to Andover's Dunn Gymnasium for the fifth consecutive season. After being knocked out for the past three seasons by Melrose, Central had more answers. Melrose is proud of the Lady Raiders accomplishments, with their five year overall regular season record of 106-13, including 22-1 this season. Melrose, like Central, returns four sophomore starters for 2008."

Friday, May 09, 2025

What Coaches Care About

The Art of Winning shares an abundance of coaching wisdom. Bill Belichick says that players achieved excellence with different approaches, but always with work.

Running back James White became a Super Bowl MVP with attention to detail in the passing game with a super human effort. Rob Gronkowski starred with a different psychological approach. Belichick described him as "alien."

Belichick's greatest compliment about his players? "All he cares about is winning." 

Lagniappe. Belichick prizes the "in-between game." "It wasn’t an accident that Brady ended up on our team. From our earliest era of success, our team vision was to find players who knew how to execute the in-between game. We wanted players who embraced performing in ways that wouldn’t necessarily be accounted for in any stat, but would certainly be noticed by the coaches—getting out-of-bounds to stop the clock instead of picking up a couple more yards, or spreading the ball around as a QB to keep as many people engaged as possible."


A Star's Light Shines on Others

"Once more, because it’s a truth worth underscoring: a championship team needs to have some elite talent." - Bill Belichick in "The Art of Winning"

Star players help teams win with superior performance and through their impact on teammates. 

Belichick added, "Not tape or coaching or raw talent. Those players knew they’d become better—that they’d become winners—because the people around them set a bar and they had no choice but to reach it. Elite players like Rodney Harrison make other players better."

Star players often mentor and motivate teammates. Think back to last season when setter Leah Fowke filled in as a hitter for the good of the team. She was All-State and All-Conference with skill setting, blocking, serving, and defending. Asked to do something more, she did that, too. The willingness to do whatever will help the team succeed is a hallmark of team players. Developing a broad skill set helps a player add value. 

Nine seniors graduate from MVB 24, lots of talented, experienced players. And many excellent players return, enthusiastic to show their skills. Local fans can expect both veterans and newcomers to perform at a high level.

Lagniappe. Be coachable

ChatGPT advice on coachability:

Coachability is a cornerstone of volleyball development, especially as players move to more competitive levels where technical precision, tactical awareness, and team cohesion are critical. At its core, coachability refers to a player's openness to feedback, willingness to change, and consistent effort to improve—not just when things are going well, but especially in moments of challenge or correction.

Key Aspects of Coachability in Volleyball

  1. Receptiveness to Feedback

    • At higher levels, feedback is more frequent, specific, and often less sugar-coated. Coachable players listen without defensiveness and show that they value the input by trying to apply it immediately and thoughtfully.

  2. Adaptability

    • Volleyball demands constant adjustment—reading hitters, reacting to blocking schemes, or adapting to a new setter. A coachable player doesn’t cling to old habits but embraces change as a route to improvement.

  3. Growth-Oriented Mindset

    • Mistakes are inevitable, but coachable athletes treat them as learning opportunities. They seek understanding and correction rather than excuses or blame.

  4. Effort and Follow-Through

    • It's not just about listening—it's about doing. Coachable players follow through in practice reps, video review, conditioning, and mindset work. They don't just nod in agreement—they show up to prove it.

  5. Team-Focused Mentality

    • Volleyball is inherently collaborative. Coachable players prioritize the system over their own stat line. They are open to roles that help the team—even if it's not their first choice—and they uplift teammates by modeling humility and professionalism.

  6. Emotional Maturity

    • At higher levels, the game becomes more emotionally intense. Coachable players regulate their reactions, take responsibility, and remain engaged even when frustrated or benched.

Why It Matters More at Higher Levels

As players move up, physical talent alone is not enough. The separation often lies in a player’s mental flexibility and willingness to evolve. Coaches want athletes who can absorb adjustments quickly, elevate team standards, and hold themselves accountable.

In short: skill gets you noticed, but coachability keeps you growing.

Thursday, May 08, 2025

Transformational

Coach Nick Saban explains how evolving from transactional to tranformational coaching changed his career. 

Good habits are critical to good process. Good process is the gold standard for eventual success.

Having a great process doesn't guarantee perfection, but it gives players and teams a chance to succeed.

You've heard these four elements again and again:

  • Skill 
  • Strategy
  • Physicality
  • Psychology
When teams have a critical mass of players who are both very good and consistent in all these areas, they usually do well. They accrue these elements with discipline, focus, effort, and patience. 

Managing Anxiety

*Modified from my basketball blog. 

Anxiety is normal, helping us respond to stressful situations. It can save us during "fight or flight" or render us paralyzed. Dr. Alexandra Solomon discussed anxiety management during a MasterClass.

Players develop anxiety before or during games. They tell themselves "We've never beaten that team" or "their pressure defense" or "how am I going to control Jones? She's so good." 

Anxiety degrades play as some players make errors, delay decision-making and hesitate, or avoid getting the ball. 

Find solutions. Fill the player's toolbox. 

Solomon explains that one antidote for anxiety is authenticity. Be yourself and over time that means if you have need areas, get extra instruction and training. Training boosts confidence and helps prevent "imposter syndrome" where you don't believe in yourself. "You can only be as good as you believe you can be." 

Kobe Bryant reminded himself that he had tremendous physical gifts. If he applied himself with training, that would create an unstoppable force. 

Address anxiety with specific tools like the Four M's. 

1) Movement - stretching, yoga, or other exercise lessen anxiety. 

2) Music - there's no one size fits all music. Some people need calming music and others need activation. 


3) Mindful meditation. Take slow, deep cleansing breaths, visualization and recall your "highlight reel of success." More experienced athletes have a portfolio of success to resurrect. Jason Selk in 10-Minute Toughness recommends building a three-minute mental highlight reel. 

4) Mantra. Affirmations and self-talk have power. "This is who I am, a capable, determined winner." 

Remind players about opportunity. Turn anxiety into excitement. Isn't it awesome to be playing in the league championship game? How many players get a chance to experience that? 

Lagniappe. Managing anxiety 

Doing Your Job

The coach's job is to put the best team on the floor/field. The player's job is to be one of those that coach wants to put in that position.

Top coaches like Scott Celli put players in a position to succeed. 

Top players earn their coach's trust. They make everyone around them better and impact winning. Put yourself in position to be one of those guys. 

From Bill Belichick in The Art of Winning, "Whatever we did to win one championship was inevitably going to filter into the plans and strategies of our opponents. (I know this because when other teams would win, we would take their best ideas.)"

Wednesday, May 07, 2025

Why Do You Play Volleyball?


Before knowing your what and your how, know your why.

Competitors with enough skill, athleticism, and size can thrive in high school sports. But it is never easy and often not linear as players progress at different rates. 

A finite number of positions and opportunity exist. We know a family in San Diego where the younger daughter couldn't make her powerhouse high school team. And she earned an East Coast D1 college volleyball scholarship from her play on the club circuit. 
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"Success, it's hard." - Derek Jeter

Bill Belichick wrote in The Art of Winning, "After Cleveland, I rejoined my old boss Bill Parcells in New England. He taught me that players lose their starting job, or are replaced or fired, for one of two reasons: “Either you aren’t playing well or someone is playing better.” That’s it. Someone else can do it better, and that someone else is in the building." 

Nine seniors graduated from MVB 24. That doesn't mean that nine openings exist; it means that opportunities exist for competitors with the skill, will, and potential to impact winning and to make the players around them better. 

Part of the 'sustainable competitive advantage' of MVB since 2002 has been contributions from all four classes, including freshmen. Last season three freshmen broke through and it's possible that additional freshmen will contribute in 2025. 

As a basketball coach I know from Maryland says, "There is no seniority system. This is not a union job." 

Players and coaches move into and out of roles. As Belichick wrote, ""The evaluation should be comprehensive to include each player, coach, and support person—identify what they are good at, what they bring to the team, and what they need to change or improve. Communicate your evaluation to each employee."

There's an old joke about knowing precisely how the season is going to go before it even starts. "Everyone is 0-0." 

There are over three months until volleyball tryouts in August. Stay focused on doing what you need to do to succeed and on what you need to avoid not to fail. 


Care More

I'm reading "The Art of Winning: Lessons from My Life in Football" by Bill Belichick and wanted to share this quote with you.

"Ultimately there is nothing that maximizes talent more than love for the game. An individual’s contribution to a win starts with caring more than the other guy."

At the gym, on the track, or in the backyard "don't put in the time, put in the work."

Lagniappe. Keep your notes in order in your notebook. 

Tuesday, May 06, 2025

"The Art of Winning"

All opinions expressed in the blog are solely my own. The blog is not an official publication of an organization within Melrose. Today's piece is minimally adapted from my basketball blog. 

"The Art of Winning" is destined to become a coaching classic. 

Bill Belichick is a polarizing person. Many people admire his success and reject his personality and methods. From a coaching perspective, "ignore the noise." 

Cognitive dissonance means being conflicted about two ideas at the same time. Win at all costs means "winning even if by cheating." Most of us would find bribing officials or intentionally injuring other competitors unacceptable.

Bill Belichick's "Art of Winning" prescribes a lot of ideas that lead to winning. I haven't read enough to know whether and to what degree he discusses "over the line" behavior. 

Here are a few quotes from his well-written book, lightly annotated. 

Believe in the saying, "make the big time wherever you are." That's part of being a professional whether coaching Biddy Ball or the big time. 

Have a vision for our teams and share that with them and the surrounding community (starting with family). 

Belichick leans into hedge fund legend Ray Dalio, borrowing from his "Principles." 
Create a learning culture from the top down. Coaches are teachers - teaching our sport, sportsmanship, and values for life.

Celebrity may be a product of success. Celebrity in itself doesn't equate to success. 

We become the product of our habits. The sum of our habits becomes our process. Good process won't guarantee championships. Poor habits guarantee a lack of success. 

Belichick knew that Super Bowls aren't the same as other games because of the magnitude of the stakes and the distractions. He describes operating the "Belichick Travel Agency" for 48 hours after earning a Super Bowl berth. He knew that winning meant "business trips" not vacations. 

Winning isn't a sin. Sacrificing young kids on the altar of victory can be. 

Lagniappe. Leadership requires more than surrounding ourselves with "Yes" guys. 

Lagniappe. 

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Lagniappe 2. Maturity matters.